Wow, this comment section is a nightmare

That’s why they’re acquaintances, rather than friends. I agree with your assessment. I can’t consider someone a friend who assumes I’m a piece shit until proven otherwise because of my immutable characteristics. Tangentially, I also can’t consider someone a friend who thinks hell is real and that a perfectly just god will send me there. Needless to say I have a small but close friend circle.

And don't forget to tell the other girls we said hi. 🤭

Okay? Is anyone ITT saying "all women who are raped [...]?"

Semi-related: Should men who are raped be wary of women?

Of couse women should try to stay safe. Just like men. But there are differences.

If you apply the same broad definition of violence to both men and women, then men are much more likely to get attacked and they're much more likely to not survive the attack. This different experience leads to a different mindset, with the majority of women being unarmed (because they feel safe) and the majority of men being armed (because they don't feel safe). Men have a problem with understanding the female experience (Sexual harassment, rape) and women have a problem with understanding the male experience (Getting beaten to death or stabbed or shot because you did nothing more than looking at a guy or just for fun). Part of the different experience is help. Women may receive help which causes them to continue asking for help in future situations; men don't receive help which causes them to shut down and stop asking (Asking for help has pretty much the opposite effect for men, it makes things even worse). A very different experience which leads to a different mindset. Which makes it so hard for women and men to understand each other. Activism and media helped to shine a light on the female experience. Which is a good thing. But it gets ridiculous really fast when women say things like "Oh yeah, men just go relaxed and safe at night or to the grocery store or alone to a festival". Women have no idea. If they had, they wouldn't wonder why we men need to be armed at all times, even if we just go to the grocery store to get some milk. And they wouldn't wonder why we men don't ask for help in so many situations.

And no. The majority of men (which I'm part of) is not friends with predators. We are forced to tolerate them. Because they're our coworkers, our bosses, or the partners of our sisters or daughters, or part of the political party which we consider to be the lesser evil - they're everywhere. We have to live with them.

Are you saying victims of rape should just get over it? Because I wouldn't judge a man or woman who is wary of people because they were raped.

Is that why you complain when women talk about how they don't like getting raped? It bothers you when women are cautious and want to be safe and that somehow makes your life difficult? Really manly over here.

Tbh I'll prob just stick with my tried and true awkward white guy smile-nod. There's people that have been working in shipping for months I've never even spoken to (oddly though they're all guys, the women talk a lot and they're mostly funny.)

That nod is a male thing, it doesn't work with women. Women smile instead - which gets misinterpreted by men.

Oh well, still not going to talk to people.

Man you seem to be very negative about this.

I guarantee you that most tourists don’t even leave the rim of the grand canyon at all. They walk around the visitors center for an hour and go home. Go more than 1000’ down from the rim and it’s not particularly crowded at all.

I can’t comment on Europe, like the previous poster—America has far more wide open wilderness than Europe does in general—but if in the USA there are still countless places where you can backpack for days without seeing a single person. There are also plenty of easier hikes with beautiful views that only see a few visitors a day. Just need to put in the footwork to find them. You won’t find them by staying at home and complaining about other hikers.

That sounds great, I would love to see the Grand Canyon. But here in the alps - you have no idea. It's ridiculous, there is so much overtourism now, it literally exploded in the last ten years. Now I try to find new areas far away from those people. I wished I had access to one of those ISP maps showing statistics about connected devices. But insects work too, the more insects you encounter, the further you are from "civilization".

And if they approach you?

I was lucky enough to meet my SO before online dating became the norm.

I'm just not equipped to navigate something like that.

I feel like being eternally single and lonely would be easier than having to encounter the constant rejection.

Assume they're not interested and are just being nice of course.

Correct.

Sweet! More gamers!

You are welcome :3
It's long as hell, so I'm glad it wasn't pointless, haha.

I feel like being eternally single and lonely would be easier than having to encounter the constant rejection.

Sadly, I think a lot of people are going down this route.

It is a great way to meet people, I will say. I met one last October once!